Okay, here me out. As this issue has divided my family.

I 41(F) and my Husband 42 (M) have been married for almost 18 years and have 3 kids. The child in question is 16 years old. When she was 14 she came to us and said she was pregnant. We were very concerned, of course, and asked who the Father was. She did not say even after us asking repeatedly for months. We also, gently, asked if someone had assaulted or gra*ped her and insisted she could be honest. We explained we loved her, but needed to know.

She never told us and went through with having the baby. Thankfully she had a healthy pregnancy. We pulled her out of school and told her we would be there for her and our grandchild.

8 months ago the baby got really sick. A blood treatment was needed but due to it having a rare blood antigen issue, basic donations were not helpful. Our family was all tested and no one had it, so we needed the baby's father. Our daughter was still reluctant to tell us after all this time. We explained this was no longer about her, but saving her child.

She finally told us the guy's name and that he was currently a senior at the local college and 21 at the time she got pregnant. Of course we were upset, at him, and understood why she felt scared as she was taken advantage of.

We went to the police and he was arrested, a DNA test was done and he was a match as the Dad and the blood. Our grand child was able to saved. The guy, however, said he had no idea our daughter was 14. He stated that he met her at the college. They met at the library, saw each other at some parties, had sex a couple of times and then he stopped hearing from her.

For context, the woman in my family, even me, started developing really early. By 14 my daughter does have the body of a young woman but a younger face. With some makeup she does look older, which is why we always encouraged her that she didn't need it.

After pleading with her to tell us the truth she finally did. Her and some friends would go to the library at the college to check out guys. She had a fake ID and did go to several parties at the school, when she was supposed to be at her friend's house. She met him and lied about being a freshman at the college. After she got pregnant she stopped talking to him.

The police want to press charge as do other people in my family, but we feel that this is unfair to him as my Daughter lied to him and put herself in this situation. Both of them say it was consensual and she even showed some videos she took of them together. Are we wrong?